About love, anger and sadness

They say being in love is the most amazing feeling in the world. But what they do not say is with love comes its two best friends anger and sadness. To the outside these feelings might not seem to be interconnected with each other but in reality they are. The weird thing is that these three feelings are felt upon the same person.

Feeling of love is when your lover does even the small things you like. It feels like a warm beverage slowly drifting down into the esophagus on a very cold day. It feels like moment should never end. The whole world is forgot and your lover is everything for you at that moment. A simple touch from him/her sends electric sparks all over your body. How much ever I put this feelings into words it feels like its still missing some major part. Words are not sufficient to describe feelings of love.

Then there is anger. This is felt on the lover when he/she does not do what you say or does against your wishes or sometimes does not speak up for his/her actions. This best friend of love also manifests for tiny reasons usually, just like the feeling of love. This feelings chooses some way to come out and express itself. It might take channels like harsh words, corporal punishment, hurling of surrounding items etc. Sometimes this feelings might stay inside only to lash out some other day in the future when similar events unfold. When anger overtakes you, love quietly but temporarily leaves you. Your empathy, care and selflessness also take a break. When love returns back you feel guilty of your actions of anger.

Last but very powerful feeling is sadness. It happens when lover does something or if something happens that was beyond your as well as his/her control. Sometimes even anger gets converted into sadness if your display of anger did not affect your partner or partner ignored it. Sadness is slightly the opposite feeling of love. Instead of warm feelings there is this uncanny coldness surrounding your body. There is also a slight pain in the heart as if someone is piercing it with a pin. In some cases makes you question yourself why you fell in love, is the partner you chose the right one, is it worth to be in relationship etc.

My question is why love gets its best friends anger and sadness wherever it goes? Why the feeling of love is not eternal without flickers? Is it because there is always a good and bad side for everything just like Yin and Yang in nature? No wonder a Kannada movie says 'Be alone to be happy, be happy to be alone'!

PS: Not supporting any side here. This is just my opinion. Everything in life has its own pros and cons.

Where does the spark go?

By reading the title of this article you should be thinking what spark is he talking about. Folks I am talking about the spark that exists between a boy and a girl (in some cases maybe a a boy and a boy or a girl and a girl too) who are in a relationship together.

At the beginning of any relationship there is a kind of charm that holds both the parties together. At this stage they talk to each other all the time. Go out, roam places and have fun in every small day to day work. But gradually this charm or spark fades away. The small things that they enjoyed before slowly turns monotonous and ends in making them either irritated or loose temper.

Why does it happen? Why does not curiosity and patience stay on for long? Why does a relationship, which was a beautiful part of their life become just a routine? Why both of them no longer feel the need to talk for long just like they did in the starting? Where does the love, care and affection that was being shown go after they have been in the relationship for sometime?

In my opinion if these sparks would hold on a bit longer then relationships would not break easily. Why does the mind needs change so much? I am not saying that all this is the sole reason for break ups but this might be one of the compelling reasons. Maybe if the mind was not so fickle relationships will last longer. Time should make a relationship stronger not weaker. So its time folks keep finding the spark in relationship to keep it healthy and strong!

Rise of the social networking frenzy generation

In the future you might see people blackmailing for Facebook likes, Facebook shares, Twitter re-tweets etc. Maybe they will hire robots or people in order to achieve their like count or followers count. Yes people that is where the young generation is heading for. This social networking frenzy generation are on the rise. They beg for likes and shares from their fellow friends/followers. They think that getting maximum number of likes on their status messages and photos is their ultimate goal of their social networking life. They would go to any extent to fulfill this need. For example I see people make their private life public by posting intimate details of their life just for the sake of publicity. Some others post totally fake photos taken from web image search engines with fake emotional stories telling that Facebook will donate money etc.

Why is the generation so obsessed with these virtual numbers? Is it because they cannot achieve their goals in their real life? Or is it because they are shy to communicate with people for real and to cover it up, take these online channels? Whatever the reason they are doing these kind of gimmicks it is very irritating for a person who is a casual social networking user and who uses this channel only to be in touch with his/her distant friends or relatives. These like-mongers get aggressive day by day. They send personal messages begging for likes and shares to people who are least interested in the page or status message. They also write on wall, tag in some random photo just to get attention of people.

I just hope against a dystopian future where social networking users are tortured for their likes, shares, re-tweets etc. If you are one of the people who is trying to get likes/shares out of your friend list by trying some above mentioned tricks please stop such campaign for the love of Facebook!

Still do you want to be his/her girlfriend/boyfriend?

Being in and out of a relationship I realised how confusing and complex it can be with an opposite sex. A small change in the relationship status can bring about tremendous results and consiquenses. I want to share some of my insights regarding it with a help of a small story.

Like in every story there was a boy and there was a girl. They considered each as their best friends. They used to do many things like study, eat and enjoy together. They enjoyed each others company very much. When one was busy the other would not disturb. There were also times they could not speak or meet each other consistently but later when they did meet, the environment between was still the same. They would also eye other people, sometime flirt with them and it did not matter. While the relationship was going so well, a small idea came into boy's mind which is later discussed with his best friend. The boy's idea was that why don't we be girlfriend and boyfriend than just being friends? Afterall they were doing many things together and enjoyed each others company! Girl took some time and finally agreed.

The excitement of entering into a new phase of a relationship masked away those cruel truths which gradually came to light. Though the rules of how a boyfriend and girlfriend should be is never written or told, its been followed by the generation. Some rules are like they should meet daily and go out, there must not be a day when they did not speak to each other, they must not show interest in any other people other than their boyfriend or girlfriend etc. These two free birds had a hard time complying to these rules and making their relationship work though these rules were insisted by them on themselves. Now, even petty things like sending a good morning text message mattered. Girl needed surprises from her boy for every occasion she can possibly name, she needed him to answer all her silly dilemmas, she needed him to assist her by leaving his job in the midsts and so on. Boy was very strict about her speaking to other guys, he needed her to wear clothes approved by him, he needed some time alone in a day and many more. The boy's original thought of they becoming girlfriend and boyfriend was to have more closure with his girl. Girl agreed to it because she felt it would be good for her as she knows him well. But it never went as they both thought which is not a surprise for us who have seen far more worse cases. Later what happened is quite common I guess. They broke after their relationship reached to that unrepairable state where the both them swore they never even see each other's face if they can help it.

So don't you think being as just friends was better in their case?

Story Behind My Stories!

Some may say life is obliged to abide by the rules of the fate. Some others may say that your life is governed by the star of your birth. But ultimately your life is what you make out of it. What you sow that you reap. By sowing a cactus plant you cannot expect to give out some good fruit.

Every life has a purpose and a person who discovers it can win that battle. Not everyone is interested in finding it. Most people do not know why they are here.

Let us set the spiritual thing aside for now. Let me tell about myself and what I am going to tell in the following pages. I am a boy and you can call me anything. Do not think I am a professional writer or something. I just wanted to write. I was and I am really crazy about reading novel. Many of my friends knew this and one fine day they had asked me “After all you have read these many number of books why don’t you write one?” “You are a fool to tell that. What do you think, is it easy to write a book? Even in my dreams I had not thought of it.”I said. “Cut that crap man. Don’t tell me you have nothing in your head that you can pen it down into a book.” snapped my friend. Though they had all gone after a few minutes of conversation, the thought of writing a book still lingered in my mind. Yes I will write I told to myself. But what do I write? Philosophy? Comedy? No, nobody would mind to read it as there are lots of books on that. I must write something which would attract the reader’s attention I decided. What would attract a reader’s attention was a million dollar question to me. After scratching my head for several days I got some ideas which I developed into stories. Under this section you will find my stories!